We Are Beating The Time Difference but everything has a cost. It’s been another long day, here in the US, of homework, taking care of two kids by myself, cooking dinner, cleaning the house, vacuuming, picking up toys dishes, laundry, showers and baths and basically maintaining my sanity, like any given day. And once the kids go to bed, is my time to call my husband, Jon, who lives in a different country, in England.
Jon and I live on a 7-hour time difference. He was able to turn his entire life around to live on my time zone. That being said, while I live the standard life, awake during the day and asleep at night, it’s almost the opposite for him.
Jon wakes up in the afternoon and sleeps when the sun comes back up again in the morning. He keeps himself busy, though. He cleans his house after each adult (guest) makes a mess, cleans the bathroom, changes sheets and basically the whole house by himself. Then does it again the following day (like me). I would have to agree that cleaning up after a grown ass adult could be more frustrating than cleaning up after tiny children, but there is still a part of me that thinks it’s easier because it’s without distraction and demand from children.
I give him credit. (after finding what I saw in the bathroom garbage can!) and I don’t dismiss the hard work he does. But, I feel like I’m probably more mentally worn out than he is at the end of a typical day. So, when I’m ready to turn it down, I mean, I’m ready to turn it down.
We Are Beating The Time Difference in Silence
I know, however, Jon must be extremely lonely at night. When the household asleep while he stays awake and waits for my call. While I spend my days in noise and constant movement. While jon spends his afternoons and nights, still, and in silence, while working building online revenue streams for us.
I do understand his constant silence. Especially after my last trip to see him in England and realizing how early everyone disappears to their rooms. I understand how quiet it gets. Which is why I stand by my statement of us living completely different lives.
Here Comes Tonight
The kids are in bed and I’m worn out beyond belief. I pick up the phone to call my husband, as usual. He asks how my day has gone and I begin to express another day of my busy day-to-day life, and he his. I’m ready for sleep, yet there is a part of me that wants to divulge myself in my mentally detached TV shows.
We speak briefly about our days and what we’ve been doing since the last time we spoke a few hours before. I turn on the TV and I subconsciously decide to find the show I’ve been longing to watch and press play. Jon, naturally, asks me what I’m watching, and I describe the show to him. The conversation eventually falls quiet and suddenly I’m deeply into the show I’m watching, hearing every word and feeling every emotion of what’s happening before my eyes (pathetic, I know. But I’m an introvert and this is how I recharge my batteries). I’m enjoying my cheeze-its and the painted, edited version of drama on the good ole television without a single concern in mind (which, to be honest, is why I like the distraction of TV).
I’m starting to feel more like myself again after a show and I decided to watch another episode. I press play. A few minutes later, I hear the sound of dishes coming from my phone.
That’s when it dawned on me… Jon, my sweet husband, who has more words than the dictionary. has been sitting quietly on the phone with me for over an hour. without having said a single word, almost having consciously sensed that I needed this nonsense-tv-time. Even as lonely as he may have felt prior, he just let me have my time without a single complaint.
I may be without my husband every day, but I always feel his presence, even when he’s silent. Sometimes, when he isn’t making a sound, is when I feel him the most we are beating the di.
Being in a long-distance relationship doesn’t mean you have to be in each other’s ear all the time… it’s about understanding and giving each other what they need. Even if they don’t realize they need it, when it’s happening. Those are the moments you should, involuntary, leave to the other to realize. The way I did, after 3 years.
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